I sat down for laughter and entertainment. I walked away with a refreshed perspective and a completely new direction for my business. 

Three weeks ago, I embarked on Schitt’s Creek based on resounding recommendations from a few friends. Immediately I found myself completely immersed in the characters; engulfed with their lives, their story lines, their humanity. I know I’m joined by millions when I say the show is so much more than humor, it’s a transformation story about self-discovery, love, inclusion, and connection. I also know that I’m joined by millions of others when I say, I’m a profoundly impacted human having experienced it. 

I was so overcome with emotion following the last episode I couldn’t handle what was running through my mind and heart. My soul was deeply touched by how well the human condition and spirit were represented, I had to journal about it just to get my emotions up and out. In full transparency, I even questioned my own sanity, “ummm this is a TV show. What is going on?” But I couldn’t shake such strong emotions so I journaled about it.

This is what came out. 

What story line pulled me in the most?

David and Patrick

Why?

Because of their journeys to self discovery. David couldn’t see how wonderful he was because he wasn’t fully accepting himself. His parents were distant in his formative years, likely creating voids when it came to love and security, which reflected in his inability to trust and let go. Patrick wasn’t living his truth; though it’s likely he didn’t fully know his truth until he met David. David brought it out in him; made him feel comfortable for who and what he was so that he could shine. David wasn’t yet ready to fully accept himself, but he created a space for Patrick to do so, and thus they flourished together.

What was my biggest takeaway?

It was a beautiful story of transformation and self discovery. The message of inclusion and [self] acceptance struck me immediately. We are who we are, and we all deserve to be loved and appreciated for the gifts, talents, and identities we bring to this world. I was inspired by the story of the show’s creation and development as it gained legs; to show that when we put our minds to something and we have a message to share with the world, that there is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING, that can or should stop us from sharing it. 

In the hour long special following the series, Daniel Levy explained how he brought it all together. For 6 years he stuck to his mission of sharing the message of inclusion and acceptance without beating it over our heads. He created a world where both were given; there were no questions as to whether someone had a space. He presented it in such a humane and dignified way that it’s impossible to not absolutely adore every character for who and what they are regardless of race, sex, religion, sexual orientation/identity. He chose to create awareness around these issues through constructive energy (vs. destructive). And as a result, told one of the most relatable stories ever (regardless of your personal sexual orientation) through television.

What did I learn about myself?

In the simplest terms, I’m driven by transformation.

I want to support others

  • Uncover their personal truths. The power that comes with living out loud, comfortable in our own skin is unmatched and is available to everyone!
  • Believe they are 100% capable of achieving whatever it is they want in this world. To support them in uncovering and flourishing in their absolute and authentic selves in whatever that means to them. 
  • Through major breakthroughs and shifts so that they can accomplish amazing things. 
  • To see themselves for who they truly are and to accept themselves for all that they are. 
  • In releasing themselves from the dead weight they’ve created and to know they are in complete control of creating whatever world they want. One in which inclusion and acceptance for themselves is a given – it’s unquestioned – and thus, extended to others naturally.

I want to build a more inclusive world through the lens of strengthened self awareness and self acceptance.

What does this all mean?

“What did you learn about yourself?” is one of the most powerful questions on this planet. It forces you to take a step back and root through what just came out for you. In that instance, I realized I haven’t been living my truth when it comes to coaching. I started my coaching practice dedicated to supporting the development and growth of leaders. While I believe in the power of effective leadership in the workplace and want to see it grow and flourish to create better work environments, the power and emotion I felt following my Schitt’s Creek experience was too much to ignore. In short, I’m a transformation junkie. My heart and soul soar when I can support someone who, for years has struggled to get out of their own way, and finally realizes they want to break free. They want to change course and realign their life and mission to their new heightened awareness. 

So now I’m in the midst of my own transformation. My coaching practice will shift from leadership to focus on supporting high performers who want to break free from the their own shackles and create a life of their dreams on their terms based on passion and drive. I support those tired of living small and feeling as if they can’t get out of their own way. Those who know they’re capable of so much more, but can’t find the courage or resources to forge a new path. 

The name, Unlimited Leader, still resonates because in our truest forms we are completely unlimited. And it’s when we step into that limitless power, potential, and personal peace that our deepest and most genuine leadership shines through. 

This [new] mission starts now

If you watched any of the Emmy’s last night, then you know Schitt’s Creek took home the first 7 awards of the night. It swept the ENTIRE comedy award line up. There’s no denying the show has reach and speaks to so many things that resonate with millions of us. We all seek transformation in some way. It’s an innate human desire because at some point we all convince ourselves we’re not worthy of living our truths and being accepted for it. And so, let me share this message with you:

Quite simply, you’re the best. You are undeniably worthy of whatever it is you want in this world. Your soul and specific talents are on this earth for a reason. Let your light shine for the world to see. 

Live your truth. Unabashedly you. 

Today’s Discomfort …

These last 165 uninterrupted days with my boys have been TRYING to say the least. I’ve been quite miserable and struggled to find inspiration to move forward. More days than not I felt lost and uncomfortable. I lost my shit more times than I can count over things that normally wouldn’t bother me.

It actually served me to feel that anger to get it out, though the aftermath between us was ugly. Once my energy (re)settled, we’d talk about what happened – what was behind my anger, frustration, resentment, annoyance. I’d ask what was behind theirs. We’d share our thoughts and feelings to learn from the experience. Yes, we kept getting angry, but every conversation got us closer to the true root of it all.

That root? Space. It’s vitally important; especially from those we love the most. Going off and having our own adventures allows us to flex the muscles we learn at home. To push boundaries on our capabilities. To learn from those outside our family unit … because some times other people do things more effectively and gaining that exposure is INVALUABLE.

… is Tomorrow’s Strength

So today my boys venture out into a whole new world; not only new grades, but new school procedures, new expectations, new ways of doing life, and I trust they’ve learned a great deal about themselves to prepare them. I venture into a new chapter reinvigorated, refreshed, and renewed having been through some extremely uncomfortable times and learning SO MUCH MORE about myself:

  • Space and time to think are vitally important to my physical and mental well-being
  • Autonomy is solidified as my #2 value. When it’s threatened, I have a REALLY hard time holding it together.
  • Resentment can consume me. I struggle to release its grip until I physically name it aloud and allow myself to really feel it.

When work gets uncomfortable…

Regardless of field, industry, or individual role, we all feel discomfort on the job. That discomfort can be fleeting, or it can linger for 165 days (or longer). You’re angry, frustrated, resentful, annoyed. You want more, but you’re lost and uncomfortable.

Absolutely! Anger, misery, lack of inspiration followed by discomfort because of the unknown are perfectly normal. So take a step back:

  • What’s the root of my painful emotions?
  • Where is the anger, frustration, boredom, discomfort coming from?
  • How have these emotions served me?
  • When did I feel setbacks because of them?
  • What have I learned about myself (that I didn’t know before)?

… Build your strengths

The first step in learning from your experiences is to dive deep into your person. Meaning you’ve got to tour the inner depths of your heart and mind to understand and optimize the thoughts, feelings, and actions that drive you, and transform those that don’t. Self awareness is the single most important factor in building your strengths and determining your ongoing development and success.

On a scale of 1-10, 1 being not at all, 10 being I know myself in and out, how do you rate yourself awareness?

How does that rating compare to where you want it to be? Is there a significant gap?

Looking to reduce discomfort? Find your strengths? Let’s connect. As a coach, I focus specifically on deepening your self awareness and establishing your leadership lifestyle to maximize your comfort and strengths. I’ve got 5 client spots available for breakthrough coaching sessions.

I recently started a guilty pleasure on Netflix, Selling Sunset. It’s a “reality” show that follows the real estate agents of the Oppenheim Group – one of the top real estate brokerages in the Hollywood Hills. The entire workforce (except for the owners) is about 6 20-30 something up and coming, competitive women real estate agents. So you can only imagine how things are positioned between them to spice things up (and get ratings). Complete and utter train wreck, though it actually teaches a great deal about workplace dynamics and leadership.

Side note, they absolutely need an HR leader because, for the love of everything holy, some unbelievable inappropriateness goes down in every episode. I literally cringe.

How Reality TV Connects to the Workplace

Well from the most obvious standpoint, it follows a company 🙂 To get more granular, one of their many arguments struck a chord when someone said, “well at least I’m being honest.”

For some backstory, there’s quite a bit of gossip that goes on among the team. It can be painstakingly awkward and uncomfortable. Long story short, two of the women were having a private conversation about one of their co-worker’s relationships. It later got brought up with the entire group. Drama immediately ensued (and understandably so. The topic of conversation wasn’t appropriate in any work setting). One of the women tried to be more delicate about this situation and soften the details, while the other was much more direct and forceful. Both threw the other under the bus, and as you can assume, it was an absolute hot mess.

So what does this have to do with honesty and [personal] leadership? The character who was being more delicate discussed what happened, but excluded relevant details that didn’t paint 100% accuracy of the situation. The other, who said, “well at least I’m being honest”, was more truthful about what the other woman said, but didn’t give her own whole side of the story either.

The crazy thing is neither were right or wrong. Clearly ineffective, but not right nor wrong. (Mind blowing, right?) They both presented their sides of the story based on THEIR truths. One happened to come from the vantage point of trying to skirt her full involvement and spare everyone’s feelings. The other came from wanting to get it all out in the open and present her truth as the only one.

Either can work because they both have their advantages (and disadvantages). The ultimate [leadership] lesson is to know that neither is good nor bad and that YOU possess both (and much more). It’s a matter of knowing which tactic to utilize and when.

Finding the Most Effective Angle

You may not always pick the “right” tactic, but there are some go-to considerations to keep in mind when unearthing “truth”/handling conflict:

  • Your energy: If you’re approaching from the vantage point of wanting to spare feelings you’re experiencing “nurturing” energy. The pull to take care of others and ensure they feel OK, safe, [somewhat] happy. And potentially sacrificing your own point of view. If you’re approaching from “well at least I’m honest”, you’re experiencing “competitive” energy. You’re judging the other person, you feel compelled to win (at all costs), and you aim to take the other person down. You may “win” the argument, but damage the relationship.
  • Their energy: You can’t guess or predict where someone is coming from nor how they’ll progress in a disagreement. The only thing you can control is YOU. You can pick up on where they are based on what they say and how the act, but you can’t fully know. That provides you the opportunity to adjust YOUR energy as warranted to generate the most effective outcome.
  • Context: While the argument may be about one thing, energy presented could be something totally different. You can never know what just happened to someone before the conversation started. Maybe they just had a bad meeting or received an annoying email that set them off. Hell, you may not even know/realize where your immediate energy came from in the moment. While you may have been harboring nurturing or competitive energy (or something completely different), it could have just been amplified x1000 by some un/subconscious thing and you’re in a completely different space than even you anticipated.

What it all boils down to …

Any form of leadership is ALL about self awareness, which is the ultimate truth. You can be the absolute best at strategy development, presentations, delegation, organization, but if you don’t know yourself and how to manage YOU in any situation well then it’s all for nothing. Conflict and the “need for honesty” stems from our respective truths never quite being equal because we all come to any proverbial table full of baggage that clouds our ability to see anything else beyond our personal truth. Building self awareness, humility, adaptability, resilience, and empathy stem from taking intentional time to unravel our own mental, emotional, and behavioral DNA. Once we have a deep understanding of our past experiences and how they contribute to our baggage, only then can we move forward with our highest potential and most effective [personal] leadership.

Interested in learning more about your workplace DNA? Schedule an appointment to talk about coaching options or sign up to take the ELI assessment.

It’s a BIG day…

I sit here bawling my eyes out. Not because of sadness or sorrow, but because of deep love, appreciation, and pride for my 17 yo nephew who just graduated from Army boot camp.

I’ve always had an affinity for those in the Armed Forces. I tear up EVERY TIME I see them in the airport, in the grocery store, or driving in their car in uniform. I go out of my way to say, “Thank you,” and offer a hug if they’re open (pre Covid of course…cuz, ya know, that’s off limits now).

There aren’t enough words in any language to express my support and gratitude for what they do for our country. Now that one of my own is included I’m legitimately speechless.

Lessons Learned

As I watched the live stream I was overcome with emotion, not only for my nephew, but the other 199 graduates who made the decision to give a part of their lives to serve this country. The commencement speaker talked about the Army values, and I couldn’t help but equate them to leadership lessons that apply to all of us.

  • We’re all capable of hard things. True to 21st century technology, his battalion posted a lot of the group’s training on their FB page. I got to see my nephew go in and out of the gas chamber, crawl with a rifle under barbed wire, and complete a 0500 physical challenge. While the average leadership position doesn’t require that much physical exertion, it certainly requires that much mental exertion. In the face of organizational adversity, be Army Strong.
  • Tough decisions can and will be made. My nephew was inducted into the Army National Guard at 16. His prefrontal cortex isn’t close to being fully developed, and yet he demonstrated conviction and decisiveness to say, “Yep. This is for me.” To be fully transparent, he made the decision at a much younger age and still chose to follow through when it came time.
  • It’s not about him. It never was, is, nor will be. As a soldier, you learn that your job is to defend the US Constitution, serve your country, and protect your peers. In short, put your ego aside and ensure others’ safety. The most effective leaders learn early and demonstrate often that level of humility. They protect their own and share their ideas, but rein in their egos to allow others to flourish and grow.
  • His biggest lesson was self-discovery. I had the privilege to communicate frequently with him by letter over his 10 weeks away. In every letter he mentioned, at least once, how much he learned about himself and what lessons he’ll carry forward in life. As a leader, the absolute most important, hands down, nothing will make you more effective, is self discovery and ultimately awareness. I say that with such conviction because I believe it to my core. It’s what I’ve built my entire practice around. If you don’t know you, there is absolutely no way you can lead others. It’s the same in love. If you don’t love yourself, you couldn’t possibly find genuine love for another. Get a coach. Do the work. Dig Deep. Know yourself inside and out in order to maximize your effectiveness and potential … as well as that of your team.

In closing…

To anyone in the military who reads this, Thank You. I appreciate you with every fiber of my being and admire your conviction to sacrifice your life for the rest of us. To fellow leaders or those in the making, your willingness to step up and take the reins is admirable too. It’s not easy being at the helm, making decisions in the interest of the many. Leadership, military or civilian, takes self-awareness, humility, adaptability, resilience, and empathy. Continue to build these muscles and there will be no stopping you. Be[come] the leader everyone wants to have.

The last few months, more specifically the most recent weeks, have raised a lot of emotions. And understandably! 2020 rolled around; looked at us all square in the eyes and said, “Hold on to your hats folks! You’re in a for a bumpy ride!”

For months we upended our entire lives. We conducted everything out of our homes with only our immediate family. As social beings who crave connection, both in and outside our family unit, nothing about it was normal! It took its toll on our collective physical, mental, and emotional health. In the middle of all that, a heinous crime caught on tape sparked a racial conversation that has all sides of the spectrum constantly posting, commenting, writing about it – working to convince everyone else to see it their way.

These are difficult times! Values are being challenged, perspectives are being pushed, and so of course emotions are running high all over the place. How could they not be?! It would be shocking if they weren’t.

And so of course it stands to reason in the midst of all of this, equality is top of mind.

  1. It’s extremely important
  2. It’s a universal right [that should be] bestowed on every single human
  3. It doesn’t exist consistently

Though what I’ve noticed is that because we’re all trying to get someone to see our side, genuine equality evades us. If someone doesn’t see it (regardless of what it is) we move to judgment and alienation. We continue to state our claim and expect others to jump onboard. And when they don’t, we shut them out and move on. Thus never reaching or maintaining an equality mindset on any side of the spectrum for any spectrum (race, politics, sexual orientation, religion, pandemic, etc.)

And so around and around we go.

Equality extends well beyond the physical demographics and labels we’ve created. It includes difference in thought. We can’t claim to seek equality and acceptance on say something like race, if we’re unwilling to accept a different point of view on it. That includes any point of view that differs from ours in any way – even if we’re working toward the same outcome from different paths. In those moments, we’re seeking equality solely on our terms. When we choose to shun and/or shut people out of our lives because they think differently or they’re not showing as much emotion and vigor about a topic, we’re not willing to seek equality and acceptance for that [different] mindset.

How can anyone approach or respond to a topic in the same way you do? They simply can’t. They don’t have the same value system – or if they do, it definitely doesn’t translate in the exact same way for them. Nor have they had the experiences that dictate your thoughts and feelings. It’s not anyone’s responsibility to carry the emotions you carry for a certain topic or cause in the exact same way you do. And vice versa. Nor is anyone’s reaction to a topic or cause yours to judge. And here’s the toughest part – even when it’s abhorrent, heinous, controversial, or painful.

And so the divide remains. And when there’s any divide, there is no equality.

Equality is the outcome.

Just because someone thinks differently than we do, doesn’t mean they’re against us. We all know the world is not that binary. But in moments of high emotion and challenged perspectives, it’s only natural to think, “well if she doesn’t see it exactly how I do or doesn’t come at it with as much emotion, she must not support me.” It’s a form of protection and personal safety. We don’t want to feel someone isn’t in our corner, so we return the favor. We bar them from belonging with us and we bar ourselves from belonging with them.

Equality is the outcome. Creating and fostering belonging is the path for getting there. Until we can all embrace each other’s differences and create a sense of belonging, (even in the most divisive and emotionally charged instances) equality will continue to evade us.

I’ll be the first to admit I’m still on the journey of living this kind of life. By no means have I mastered it. There are specific instances and people who trigger me to no end and challenge my values to a point I can’t even see straight, which induce self-imposed barriers that can be difficult to tear down. But damn it if I’m not trying my hardest to walk this talk.

Moving forward

This isn’t easy. If it were, it wouldn’t surface for us to deal with. And our 21st century world of instant information and opinion sharing doesn’t make it easier to effectively process. When we think we have a handle on our own thoughts or emotions, something else pops up and we starting spinning to make sense of it all. To struggle in this moment with these topics is human. If you’re willing to step into this uncomfortable space and root through what’s coming up for you, reach out. Let’s connect. Life wasn’t meant to gone alone and whatever the thoughts, we all belong here.

A few days ago, I posted this on my personal FB page…

“… research shows we operate largely with subconscious minds that have been programmed by others. As humans we have the amazing ability to change past conditioning. We can achieve this by releasing negativity…engaging in uplifting activities. In this way we can develop new positive ways of living and begin to clear the subconscious of all that does not serve us. True transformation is brought about by … attention (focus) and intention (clear vision of a desired outcome). Attention energizes and intention transforms. What we place our attention on expands in our lives. And our intention for the object of our attention will orchestrate the forces of the universe to support our desired result. Harnessing this power … you can change your life to reflect exactly what you envision. Entering into the field of all possibilities…allows us to bear witness to our co-creative powers and change any situation in our lives.” – Deepak Chopra 21 Day Meditation Challenge

Over a month ago I embarked on this free mediation challenge sponsored by Deepak focused specifically on abundance. That is, establishing the belief there is enough to go around in this world, and learning to create whatever it is I want in this life by removing all self-imposed blocks. I enjoyed it so much and legitimately experienced some life altering abundance in that short time that I started over earlier this week.

The blurb is from one of the sessions and hit me 1000x heavier this time than it did just 3 short weeks ago. Please take a moment to read it over and over again. So many of us want change and have been taking small steps in the last few days to get there. Though real change, systemic change, starts with each of us as individuals. It starts with us realizing and genuinely believing change can happen and that we must work pretty damn hard on ourselves to make it happen. This isn’t someone else’s problem. This is collectively our problem as single entities living as part of the whole. We are capable of completely reconditioning our minds and hearts to truly live in an “all lives matter” world. But first we must make the choice to look at ourselves in the mirror and admit to whom we’ve failed and to ensure they know we mean it this time.

“What we place our attention on expands in our lives.”

  • What have you been focusing on up to now?
  • How has that served you?
  • How has that served those around you?
  • What could you focus on moving forward so that every human expands and truly believes they matter?

The only way to affect real change is to change the minds and hearts one person at a time.

But there’s more …

After thinking more about this post and building on the idea of abundance, I want to address what I believe to be the most fundamental tenet on the topic. “There is enough to go around”. Let me repeat: “There is enough to go around.” This applies to love, compassion, empathy, health, well-being, wealth – whatever you can dream of, the Source (God, the universe, whatever) created enough for everyone!

For millennia, we’ve convinced ourselves there’s “only so much to have”. I call BS!

Just because someone else wins or prospers doesn’t mean the rest of us automatically lose! However, our entire societal infrastructure is built on the exact opposite belief. It’s built for only a handful to “win”. It’s built to protect [white] egos vs. providing the opportunity for everyone to step in and reap the rewards.

Imagine what the world would be like if we ALL believed there was enough to go around? And we consistently lifted EVERYONE up despite our differences to ensure no one EVER doubted that thought for even a second?

I’m fully aware that I am a white woman. That biological fact cannot be changed. I’m also aware the concept of white privilege hasn’t added another hurdle for me to overcome. It doesn’t mean my life has been easy, it just means that my skin color hasn’t made it any harder. I recognize people may say, “all of this is easy for you to say because the system is built for you and you’ve never experienced the atrocities black people or other minorities have.” Another fact that cannot be changed. Though it doesn’t make my new solidified belief in abundance any less true or insignificant. Because here’s the thing, in full transparency, I used to be someone who believed there was only a limited amount to go around. I was competitive. I was judgmental. I wanted to win at all costs because I thought if I didn’t get my share when I wanted it I never would. I believed I had to beat anyone and everyone who challenged me. I never consciously attributed that to anyone of a specific color or other demographic label different than mine, but up until 18 months ago I was living through my collective subconscious mind. The one we all carry around built by those around us. For over 3 decades I’ve lived in a very homogeneous communities, so yeah, my competition was likely much more pronounced with those who aren’t like me.

I can’t go back and change my past, but I can completely step into my abundant conscious mind and create a new future. Such that whomever I interact with, regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, political belief, whatever, unequivocally knows I’m in their corner and rooting for them. That said, this isn’t the end of my road to support the path of getting to “all lives matter”. My soul has significantly changed. Though like any development journey, it’s never really over. And that rings true for all of us – no matter what side of the issue(s) we fall. We all have quite a bit of reprogramming to do if our current condition is ever to be corrected and our subconscious minds wiped clean.

So where do we go from here?

Whether you buy into anything I’ve said, the very real fact is that the challenge of sub- or unconscious bias lives in everyone. So what do we do? A s**t ton of soul searching and correcting. Plain and simple.

We ask ourselves the hard questions to clear our hearts, minds, and souls of what we’ve told ourselves about other people who are different than us.

  • Where do my sub- or unconscious biases lie?
  • What have I been placing my attention on? For the last 12 months? For the last 12 days?
  • What has expanded in my world as a result? In the world of those around me?
  • What would the world would be like if we ALL believed there was enough to go around?
  • What if I consistently lifted EVERYONE up despite our differences to ensure they never doubted my support?
  • How have I been lifting those like me? Not like me?
  • How have I been tearing down those like me? Not like me?
  • What would it feel like to live in a world where all lives truly mattered?
  • What have I done in the last week to create that world?
  • What have I done in the last week to step further away from that world?
  • What belief do I want to adopt to live and embody “all lives matter”?

From here on out, we constantly remind ourselves, “What we place our attention on expands in our lives.” And we collectively place our attention and intention on abundance for anyone and everyone.

Jenny Williams, Sr. HR Business Partner with GE Aviation, kicked her servant leadership mindset into high gear when Covid-19 hit. One tiny LinkedIn post about helping displaced workers with their resumes blew up – in the most amazing way! In the last 10 weeks, she’s supported 62 individuals … and still counting … doctor up their resumes and find new positions. Her energy, outlook, and approach to not just this project, but life in general, are truly inspiring!

Who is Jenny?

Jenny has worked in HR for over 20 years. She’s held positions in every aspect of the employee life cycle. From recruiting to performance management to salary design to labor relations and everything in between. She’s seen it all. Her experience runs far and wide. So when she decided to employ her recruiting and resume services, it wasn’t a stretch. She often says, “I’m not unique,” but that certainly isn’t the case – AT ALL. As part of her process, Jenny utilizes a graphic resume template. Something outside the traditional chronological list. Something to spark a recruiter’s interest. She also sends each individual a summary of how to manage a phone interview, as well as a personalized piece of encouragement. Something that speaks to the individual she’s helping. That encouragement is the magic. That encouragement is what makes Jenny and her servant leadership so unique.

Highlights from our chat

  • Values and faith-based leadership brand: Jenny connects herself spiritually to a higher power and has taken a lot of time to develop her closest held values. Every time she needs to make a decision or is presented with a new situation, she gut checks those values. If everything is aligned to them as well as her heart, she moves forward. Living in this way has strengthened her leadership style. Her business partners know they’ll always get authenticity and transparency with her.
  • If you knew all of your dreams would come true, would you dream bigger? Jenny left us with that mindset moment using me as an example. She walked through all the dreams I’ve had in my life to date and how I’ve accomplished nearly all of them. Knowing that I … and you … have achieved most of what we set out to have in our adult lives, how much bigger could we dream knowing we have a history of accomplishment and success behind us? We’ve done what we wanted, what’s stopping us from going that much bigger!?
  • Interested in Jenny’s energy and services? Contact her on LinkedIn. Her InMail is pushing it’s limits, (understandably) but she is organized and process-oriented. Turn around time is quick.

Check out the full episode

I’m so honored to have met Jenny and to feature her on the series! Her energy and outlook align so well to the idea of setting yourself up to accomplish everything you want in this life once you’ve cleared your mind and heart of the things that convince you otherwise. Remember, you are unique. You are full of potential. You are absolutely and unequivocally … unlimited.

In today’s episode of the HR Chat Series #otherfrontline, we were joined by a very good friend, Cheryl Czach, founder and CEO of Cheryl Czach Coaching and Consulting. The topic? CHROs make some of the best CEOs. In a UofM study, “which concentrated on 14 aspects of leadership, grouped into three categories: leadership style, thinking style, and emotional competency.  Except for the COO (whose role and responsibilities often overlap with the CEO’s), it was CHROs who had the most overlap with CEOs.” (HCAMAG Mar 2015). On top of this, she offered several other examples as well as her own story to prove HR leaders have what it takes to reach the top of the organization. As long as they’re willing to dream big for it and find creative ways to learn about the business.

Dive into Cheryl’s perspective on how to go from HR to CEO:

  • Be willing to learn: Find ways to step outside of HR and explore the business. Take on business projects, get formal training on topics you’re not familiar with (accounting, finance, project management).
  • Keep it simple: One of the best ways Cheryl learned the business was writing articles for the company’s customer newsletter. She interviewed employees across various functions and roles and shadowed them for a few days to see it all in action. By writing what she saw and heard, she learned so much about the business in a very short time. She used that information to ready herself for roles that took on some of those functions and prove her ability to effectively lead them.
  • Be daring: Find someone who’s willing to push you outside of your comfort zone. Someone who can help you realize the negative self talk in your head is simply your inability to see your own greatness. One of Cheryl’s pivotal moments was working with her first professional coach. She was in her early 30s and her first “real” leadership position. Without that accountability and support to step outside of herself, she never would have gone after roles that put her in charge of functions she never actually worked.
  • Solidify your role as a leader: Once Cheryl reached president, she focused on her role as a leader: facilitator and talent developer vs. doer. She centered her energy and strengths around leading her teams to find the answers for themselves and grow in their individual roles vs. being the expert in every single function.
  • Advocate for psychological safety: Enable a company culture that embraces failure without repercussions and be transparent with business decisions, even if you don’t have all the answers.
  • Dream big: “Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” (Christian D. Larson)

Check out the full episode here:

Cheryl is one of the most down-to-earth and engaging people I’ve had the privilege of connecting with in this world. If you’re interested in coaching and resonate with Cheryl’s style, check out her website and sign up to connect!

Yesterday afternoon one of my best friends lost his father to early onset Alzheimer’s.

John was a tremendous man who touched the lives of so many people.

He epitomized the kind of person you wanted to be. Always smiling, unbelievably generous and personable, the understated life of the party. The one who stood back watching everyone else have a great time, but without his energy none of it would have been possible to begin with. He was never boastful or flashy, simply the calming life force you couldn’t help but be drawn to.

Losing him physically is a great loss; though because of his impact and legacy we haven’t lost him at all, nor will we ever lose him.

Physical death always brings with it a moment of reflection for those of us still in our human form. As I thought about all of the years I’ve known his being and laughed at the great memories we shared in between my tears, I started to inventory the foundation I’ve laid for my legacy:

  • How do I describe the imprint my physical being is leaving on this world?
  • How do I want to be remembered?
  • How often am I living in alignment with what I want?
  • How could I shift my thoughts and behaviors to more consistently live in such a way that reflects my desired legacy?

At the end of the day, none of us can control how others perceive us – now or at the time of our physical death. But if we set an intention, much like my friend’s dad, to live in a way that allows us to share in this human experience with love, compassion, empathy, and inclusion, we will have left this earth with an immeasurable impact that will never die.

John McCarthy, CEO of The Purpose Promise, talks about finding empathy to connect with displaced employees in the Covid-19 world. The “new normal” labor market will be even more competitive than it was before it all started, so how HR and business leaders treat employees now will hugely affect recruitment, lasting engagement, and ultimately company culture and retention in the new normal.

Key takeaway from today’s discussion:

  • Employees, especially those displaced, want to be seen and heard. Employers who reach out will make a positive impact. The displaced employees will feel seen and heard letting them know the employer truly cares for them.
  • Approach employees with empathy vs. sympathy. By channeling authenticity and vulnerability, HR and business leaders demonstrate that each employees’ safety and well-being are at the center of their concern.
  • It’s not too late to start reaching out for any companies that haven’t been. It sends the message that you’re in this with them. You may not have all the answers or a defined plan, but you’re there for them and willing to support them in whatever way you can.
  • The post-Covid market will look very different than the pre-Covid market. The gig economy is on the rise and it’s imperative for HR and business leaders to know and articulate where they stand to attract top talent.

Learn more about John and the rest of the Purpose Promise team at: https://www.purposepromise.org/covid19 and listen to the Purpose Promise Podcast.